We are back from Thanksgiving. I kept to a "don't speak unless spoken to" policy, which worked well. When I saw my 16 year old nephew beating the tar out of his 9 year old brother, I didn't intervene. When my sister in law told us how 3 of her siblings are on the wagon together, I murmered platitudes about how good it is they have each other for support. When my brother in law joked that my kids would never learn about drugs & alcohol if we homeschool them through high school, I joked back that SOMEONE in the family would be able to give them the info...and no one seemed to mind.
We had been shuttling my nephew around in our car. On the last day there, he noticed a lego figure on the floor and turned to Son #4:
"I'm going to have to ask you to turn out all your pockets."
While sweet, innocent S#4 did, I told the nephew that there were a LOT of ways to deal with people without treating them that way. And that we have legos, just like he does. That those legos might be ours, or might be his, and might even have fallen out of his own pocket.
Then, naturally, I told Son #4 that he never, under any circumstances, has to turn out his pockets to prove he is not a thief.
To give him credit, the nephew did seem to understand my point and take it to heart. But holy crap on a cracker, I could have spit nails.
So did I do ok? Please? I hope so.